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Introduction
Influence isn’t about loudness or job titles—it’s about consistent, subtle behaviors that earn trust and respect. Research shows that people who master these quiet habits are 2x more likely to be promoted (Harvard Business Review).
This blog breaks down Rohit Sakunia’s 7 tiny behaviors that build unshakeable influence, backed by psychology, neuroscience, and real-world examples.
The Science Behind Quiet Influence
✅ Trust = Influence: Teams with high trust are 50% more productive (Google’s Project Aristotle).
✅ Calmness = Authority: Leaders who stay composed under stress are perceived as 30% more competent (Stanford Study).
✅ Gratitude = Loyalty: Employees who feel recognized are 4x more engaged (Gallup).
Now, let’s dive into the 7 habits.
1. Keep Your Word (Even on Small Stuff)
Why It Works:
- Reliability triggers the brain’s “trust hormone” (oxytocin) (Neuroscience research).
- People remember consistency—not grand gestures.
What to Do:
✔ Underpromise, overdeliver.
✔ Send updates before being asked.
Real-World Example:
Warren Buffett’s reputation for keeping promises made him the most trusted investor.
2. Speak Last in Meetings
Why It Works:
- Listening first signals emotional intelligence (EQ is 90% of top leadership skills, per HBR).
- Summarizing others’ points builds cohesion.
What to Do:
✔ Let others share first.
✔ Synthesize ideas: “Building on X’s point, what if we…?”
Science Says:
Teams where everyone speaks equally are smarter (MIT Study).
3. Learn People’s Preferences
Why It Works:
- Personalization boosts likability (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology).
- Noticing small details (e.g., birthdays) builds rapport.
What to Do:
✔ Adapt your style (e.g., email vs. Slack for each colleague).
✔ Remember non-work details (e.g., “How was your daughter’s recital?”).
4. Give Credit Freely (And Often)
Why It Works:
- Sharing credit increases your perceived authority (Wharton School Research).
- Public praise motivates teams 3x more than bonuses (Deloitte Study).
What to Do:
✔ “This was all Sarah’s idea—she nailed it!”
✔ Praise in public, critique in private.
5. Ask Powerful Questions
Why It Works:
- Great questions activate problem-solving brain regions (fMRI studies).
- Reframing > Reacting: “What’s the real goal here?”
What to Do:
✔ “How does this align with our mission?”
✔ “What’s the hidden risk?”
Example:
Elon Musk’s “First Principles” questions revolutionized SpaceX.
6. Stay Calm When Others Don’t
Why It Works:
- Calmness lowers group stress (mirror neurons mimic your state).
- Neutral tone prevents amygdala hijacks (brain’s panic mode).
What to Do:
✔ Slow your speech.
✔ “Let’s pause and reassess.”
7. Help Without Keeping Score
Why It Works:
- Selflessness builds “social capital” (Harvard Study).
- Givers outperform takers long-term (Adam Grant’s Give and Take).
What to Do:
✔ Offer help before being asked.
✔ Never say “You owe me.”
Key Takeaways
- Influence is earned daily—not demanded.
- Small actions compound into big respect.
- Trust > Authority—people follow those they believe in.
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